Comments on: Porn and Lust – it’s just a part of life

By: Roberta

Roberta — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:15:01 +0000

What’s wrong with porn? WHAT’S RIGHT WITH PORN? Don’t give me that jive about it being a release for would-be molestors. It’s been proven to to ignite ideas of molestation and even murder. One porn video has thousands if not millions of victims.
I love the new age views. They allow for all these lovely “spirit guides” and angels and cascades of positive thoughts and silver linings all around us. Porn is neither good nor bad, it simply is what it is to the beholder. Yeah, right. They don’t acknowledge the flip side of that sweet philosophy: for every front, there’s a back, for every up, there’s a down. Porn is a vile depiction of something that is flat-out supposed to be a private expression between people who love each other. Any other candy-coated application or use of sex (marketing, movies, etc.) is bullshit. Everything’s ok these days. Everything’s subjective – if it’s good for you, it’s good. Well, folks, that’s just not true. Porn has a domino effect of evil that ripples throughout our entire society. Pretending otherwise is stupid and destructive. Every porn “star” is someone’s daughter, son, sister, mother, dad, brother — and it hurts. However, it’s a multi-billion dollar industry, so I guess that makes it ok.
Not in my house, it doesn’t.
Porn is an outrage that should be eradicated.

By: Roberta

Roberta — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 04:47:30 +0000

I was molested as a young child. I have spoken to many victims of childhood molestation, and not one — NOT ONE! likes or can even tolerate porn. Women who formerly did the whole football team recoil at pornography. When I find evidence that my husband is using porn, I panic. I don’t want to have sex, but I do, hoping that if I “take care of him” that he’ll be less likely to hole up in the office with the computer and a wad of toilet paper, which just makes me sick. Here are how porn affects my sex life: I wonder if I’m doing it right. I wonder if I’m making the right noises. I wonder how ugly I look. I wonder if I’m NOT making the right noises. I no longer speak to him, telling him what I want or what feels good. I feel like porn stars are in our bed, because they’re in my head and I wonder which one he’s imagining while I’m having sex with him. NEVER will I do it with the lights on anymore. I wonder if he likes certain porn stars because they look like women he’s attracted to in real life. I cannot have sex without wondering who he is pretending I am. I can’t stand him to touch my stomach or my breasts, because they’re not firm and 17 years old. I wonder — should I shave? Do I look like a dweeb? Does everyone shave?
I hate it. I hate what porn has done to my sex life. On top of that, I feel obligated to have sex more often so that my husband won’t want to look at it because he isn’t “getting any” at home. I used to like sex and have fun and have orgasms. Now? HA! I do it much more, and I frickin hate it. I feel like I’m in grammar school with only my underwear on. Thanks, porn industry. Orgasms? Right. I found out from watching ten minutes of porn that I WAS DOING IT WRONG. I hate it. I hate porn and I hate that my husband and – what fat percent of –american males are ADDICTED TO IT.
I feel like my sex life has been stolen, and as a victim of childhood molestation, it wasn’t easy to develop a sex life at all. Yes, my grandfather finger banged me. Our neighbor would jack off on my window. Now, after years of working on that and developing a cherished sex life, it’ over. THANK YOU PORN.

By: Tasha

Tasha — Tue, 13 May 2008 22:23:21 +0000

Don’t call yourself “damaged.” That implies that there is something wrong with you. If you have been affected by a husband with a pornography, remember that you were not the first nor will you be the last. There are so many women in the same boat as you. Those women are probably experiencing the same things as you are: insecurity, humiliation, betrayal, lack of confidence, and feeling ugly or not sexy. Seek counseling no matter how your husband deals with the problem. The number one issue is your self-esteem and mental well-being. Then figure out what to do about your husband. If he desires to stop his addiction, great! Work with him–he needs your support. If he denies a problem and refuses to stop…well, only you know what you are willing to live with…

By: julie

julie — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 03:06:13 +0000

Do you offer help for Wives who have been damaged by abuse and pornography?